Showing posts with label therapy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label therapy. Show all posts
4 Jan 2011
Being an adoptive Mum is...
...thinking that their birth parents got it wrong (maybe not all the time) and so there is additional pressure to get the parenting more right than they did. And then I get so engrossed in trying to get it so right (even thought I don't know what I'm doing half the time!) that I stress myself out so severely that I am doing myself more mental damage. I need to remember that I am me, that they are now in a safe place and my parenting skills need to be "good enough" not "perfect"
3 Jan 2011
Being an adoptive Mum is...
...realising that all the expensive therapy and counselling you had after numerous failed attempts at IVF dissolves when the children arrive and your childlessness smacks you right in the face
2 Jan 2011
Being an adoptive Mum is...
...is having to write a 'nice' letter to the birth family about 'how well' YOUR children are doing. You cannot write about how you have to hold them at night and in the day whilst they tantrum and rebel against you. You cannot write about how you have to go over and over with them that they are safe with you. You cannot write about how they go over and over the same phrase hundreds of times a day because they have become hyper-vigilant. You cannot write about how the oldest one can at last write his own name and what a fabulous milestone that is. You cannot write about how middlie's speech is improving leaps and bounds because she is attaching and settling. You cannot write about how littlie is finally sleeping through the night because for the last seven months he has not been settling. You cannot write about how much your oldest one hates you and refuses to bond with you because he knows you will be another female who promises you will stay and then will leave him yet again. You cannot write about the therapy that they and you urgently need because of the abuse THEY inflicted upon these poor little babies.
31 Dec 2010
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