Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts
5 Mar 2011
Being an adoptive Mum is...
...jumping up and down with happiness and relief that my oldest has been asked out on a play-date by a friend of his in his class. He was the only one asked too! This is HUGE. He doesn't have friends, he can't make friends, his 'friends' from the past have always been adults because he has needed the adults to help him to survive. He struggles with his peers, he drives them away because he doesn't know how to behave properly with them. Well now, he is on the road to proper friendships - yayyyy!
5 Jan 2011
Being an adoptive Mum is...
...feeling like adoption has ruined our relationship, has lost me (supposed) friends too and makes some people treat me like a leper. I'm sure there is some good stuff in there too, that's why I'm doing this blog, so I can see how things are changing / improving, to give me hope
3 Jan 2011
Being an adoptive Mum is...
...explaining to your oldest son that even though you can't physically see him when he is at school, it doesn't mean you don't think of him or have stopped loving him. You get advice to put notes in his lunch box which he absolutely loves and shows off to his friends at school
Being an adoptive Mum is...
...a week after the red love heart episode, receiving a badge from your oldest son, with whom you have a very strained relationship, that he made especially for you. You put it on your bedside table so you and he can see you have kept it and think of him often
2 Jan 2011
Being an adoptive Mum is...
...very difficult when you have to behave consistently with all three children, when you don't like one of them very much and you don't want to give them a kiss and a hug. But you HAVE to do it and make it not look fake. Remembering to make sure they are not the last one to be kissed. Constantly trying to see it from their point of view and working out if they can see you faking it. It's very draining.
Being an adoptive Mum is...
...like being in an arranged marriage - with three people. Sadly, it can be very difficult to love or even like them all. Sometimes it can take years to like them and you may never love them.
1 Jan 2011
Being an adoptive Mum is...
...only having had 1.5 hours quality time with your husband in six months
Being an adoptive Mum is...
...becoming a different person; suddenly you are calling your husband 'Daddy', your Dad 'Granddad', your Mum 'Granny', your sister 'Auntie', your brother 'Uncle' and you are calling yourself your Mum. At first it's funny, and you have a laugh correcting yourself or the children correct you and they think it's funny too. It is also unnerving because you lose your identity overnight. Birth parents lose their identity slowly as the child learns to speak, you lose it instantly.
Being an adoptive Mum is...
...realising that hard times call for fast friends. As told to me on the Adoption UK message boards
31 Dec 2010
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