What they DON'T tell you on prep groups!
This is a blog of the things we have learned as a new adoptive Mum and Dad to three children under the age of five. For 'Mum' you can read 'Dad' and 'parent'. It is also a record of some of the things no-one told us on the prep groups. Some of it is what children get up to in general and some of it is adoption-specific. Regardless, it should be an interesting read for any parent, prospective and adoptive. Feel free to add your comments, which I shall publish.
1 Mar 2011
Being an adoptive Mum is...
...having to think for the children. What I found the most mentally tiring was having to think for the children when I asked them to do something. For example, cleaning their teeth, I couldn't just send them into the bathroom, I would have to take them in, stop them from squabbling as to who stands where (each now has their own step stools - that was the answer!), who gets to use the toothpaste first (Mummy does it now because they can't squeeze the tube carefully), who turns over the timer (each take it in turn each day), showing each of them how to clean their teeth, stopping them from playing with the toothbrushes like swords or trying to clean the plughole with the toothbrushes or poking another's eye out, trying in vain to get them to spit out the toothpaste, showing them how to rinse the toothbrushes, reminding them to put the toothbrushes in the pot rather than chuck them in the sink...the longest two minutes of my life!